Sunday, December 7, 2025

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Online Bashing: What Makes Strangers So Mean

YOU POST SOMETHING online – and suddenly a stranger attacks you. Out of nowhere, someone you don’t even know is trying to embarrass you in front of everyone – like they’ve known you for years. 
And you’re left thinking, “Where did that come from?”

THE BACK STORY
You’re not alone. Welcome to the wild world of online bashing – where people get bold behind a screen, but not because they’re brave.

HAPPY PEOPLE DON’T HATE ONLINE 

People who feel good about themselves don’t randomly attack strangers online. If someone bashes you, that says more about them than it ever will about you.

Let’s break down why they do it – and what you can do instead of losing your cool.

WHEN SOMEONE BASHES YOU ONLINE (specially a stranger):

Don’t take the bait.
You don’t have to reply. Silence is a power move. Not every comment deserves your energy.

Ask yourself: “Is this about me – or about them?”
Most of the time, it’s them. Their mood. Their issues. Their mess.

Don’t match their tone.
You don’t need to be rude back. Stay cool. Reply calm – if you choose to reply at all.

WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE BASHING SOMEONE ONLINE:

Pause. Breathe. Wait.
Ask yourself: “Do I want to connect or just explode?” Type it if you must – but don’t hit send yet.

Try a question instead.
Instead of “That’s dumb,” try: “I see it differently – can I share my take?”

Check your real reason.
Are you angry at them – or just frustrated with life today? Don’t turn a bad day into a mean post.

TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

At the end of the day, online bashing isn’t real strength. It’s stress, fear, boredom, or insecurity – dressed up as confidence.

The good news?
You don’t have to play that game. Next time you’re online and the drama starts flying:

  • Scroll past.
  • Stay calm.

When you’re tempted to bash someone else? Choose better words. You’ve got the power to keep it smooth and strong: Not loud. Not messy.

Remember: When strangers get mean online, take the high road. That’s real power.

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Vivien Mangalindan is a dynamic Broadcast Journalist and engaging Global Public Speaker. She empowers individuals and groups with "Conversation Masterclass: Unlock Your Power to Connect" - because real influence begins with real connection.