SELF-AWARENESS SOUNDS deep and wise… but really, it’s just catching yourself thinking, ‘Yikes… that’s me!’
The Back Story
Most people think they’re self-aware. “I know who I am. I know what I like.” But real self-awareness goes beyond that.
- How you talk to people.
- How you react under stress.
- How your energy fills a room… or empties it.
It’s not about knowing your coffee order or your favorite playlist. It’s about noticing your patterns—the things you do automatically without realizing.
- It’s being honest enough to notice what you say, do, and feel—especially when it’s not your best moment.
Everyday ‘Oops’ Moments
Do these scenarios sound familiar?
- Your coworker says, “Did you finish the report?” and you snap, “Can’t you see I’m busy?” Later, you realize it wasn’t them—it was your stress taking over.
- A friend says, “Can you help me this weekend?” You say “Sure!” but deep down you’re screaming “Nooooooo!” Now you’re tired and grouchy.
- At dinner, you start sharing a story. Then you notice—everyone’s quiet. That’s when it hits you: you just gave a TED Talk nobody asked for.
Those are mirrors that show what’s really going on inside.
Mirror Check
Self-awareness is like holding up a mirror and saying, “Well… that’s uncomfortable.”
- But that discomfort? That’s where growth starts.
It’s the “Oops, I did it again” moment that turns into, “Okay, next time I’ll do better.”
- The moment you see yourself clearly, you start to level up.
Press Pause
Before you speak, react, or decide, pause and ask:
- What vibe am I giving?
- Listening or just waiting to talk?
- Calm, or ready to bite someone’s head off?
That one tiny pause can save you from a lot of awkward clean-ups later.
Better, Not Perfect
Self-awareness doesn’t mean you’ll never slip up again. The difference is:
- You’ll catch it faster
- You’ll own it sooner
- You’ll choose smarter next time
It’s not about being perfect—it’s about paying attention to your patterns and reactions.
Breakthrough starts with small ‘aha’ moments.
Tips And Techniques
Self-awareness unlocks real progress. You can’t change what you ignore. Seeing it is a step toward growth.
That’s how self-awareness starts—one honest look in the mirror at a time.
Remember: Stop pretending—that’s your turning point.
Well said! I like “better, not perfect.” Lots of great advice here. My only addition I would be to suggest confirming what you are noticing about yourself with someone you trust. Sharing what you are working on so that person can help you be successful at making the change(s) you want to make.
That’s a valuable insight, Kristi.
Am grateful you shared.